Happy Hour Wednesday/ Double date with J&A was a “success”!!!!
MG and I arrived early to the restaurant and I bee-lined it to the free meat balls and chips that the restaurant offers while you wait for you table to become available. I was hungry! I loaded us a plate of balls and then walked over to the hostess stand to check us in. I do have my priorities!
We sat at the bar and chatted about each other’s day before J&A arrived. We headed to our booth and the falling into a nice dinner conversation began.
I was worried for half a second, that there might be some awkward moments and silent lapses but everything went off without a hitch! J&A had just gotten back from a week long vacation, drinking their way through Napa Valley and they had tales to tell… I, of course had my tale but couldn’t tell it while MG was there. Although I’m sure he would have enjoyed listening to me retell our story!
I every so often wanted to keep a physical connection with MG and would reach for his leg to caress it and he would in return hold my hand. I didn’t want us to be that couple who couldn’t keep their hands off of each other during dinner but it was evident that we were being casual intimate. I wanted to have that connection because I wanted to be romantic with him, showing a small gesture while out in the open.
It was the first setting that we were show casing that we are a couple… It was nice. I don’t think I have ever felt so comfortable with a man, while with friends. I didn’t feel any anxiety or apprehension. I knew MG would get along with J&A and knew that they would like him because I like him!
Even though meeting J&A is over, the slow introduction of MG to the rest of my world is starting to take place. I don’t want to bombard him with my friends all at once, which is difficult because the holidays are here and so much is going on…
It’s a fine balance. I want alone time with MG but I also want to be with my friends. How do you compromise? I don’t want to be that girl who, once she gets into a relationship, she forsaken’s her friends to be with the guy. Nor do I want to be the girl who shoves her friends down her guy’s throat right away either.
I discussed this balancing act with MG and he said as long as it’s not forced, he is fine with meeting my friends. I don’t want to force anything. It always has to come naturally, otherwise it’s not meant to be…
So for now we find the balance of slowing blending our lives together… Because the whole point of dating is to find someone you are compatible with, to see if you can share a life together…
MG is taking me away this weekend! It’s our first weekend get away. He said it’s a surprise. He said for me to pack my bag and be comfy!
EEEkkkkk!!!! I wonder what Adventure he is taking me on….
MG is joining my Happy Hour Wednesday group… Which means, he is going to meet J&A! It’s a planned meeting. Kind of a double date…
He wants to me part of my life, so he has to be in my life, which means the meeting of key players, who I rely and spend much of my time with, sooooo it should be interesting….
At this time around, he will be mentally prepared for this encounter, unlike when he met Plums, Boobs and her man J. That was a last minute ambush, before feelings really took place!
Let’s see where this Adventure leads us…
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It’s better to have loved and lost….enjoy!
Sigh…. I guess so! Thanks girl… I’m trying to enjoy it….. We both talked about how it feels too good to be true, with us. We definitely are proceeding with caution but we also know that we make each other happy and smile like no other. It’s crazy what has happened these last few weeks. Who would have believed a month ago, that MG and I would be where we are together. Texting every moment of the day, missing each other after only 1 day and counting down the days until we can be together again. It definitely is the honeymoon stage and I am trying hard not to have any doubts…
10th date… Hiding in purse
Playing with the Chinese statue after dinner…
Mini Golfing is fantastically fun in the company of a friend. MG and I, even though are now a couple, we are first and foremost friends. We were silly, kissing at every hole and finding cute places to take pictures of Memory… It’s pretty hilarious that we have more pictures of Memory then we have of each other, or together… We actually have NO pictures together…
After playing 2 different courses, we opted for food. He drove us to a Chinese restaurant near-by and he told me about the conversation he had with his Mom about us. He told his Mom about us!!!!! I guess it truly is official… But then again, my Mom knew about him from the start! His Mom wants to know when she’ll get to meet me. He said not any time soon! Although I think he’s going to be meeting my Mom some time this month…. It’s probably going to happen during my family’s Annual Christmas Tree Decorating party… That shall be interesting!
We even discussed Christmas and New Years plans! YIKES!!!!! Yup it’s happening. We definitely are NOT spending Christmas together. That is WAY too soon and a bit intimidating… BUT we are going to be together for New Years! For the first time, I think ever, I’m going to have a romantic New Years KISS!!!! Shocking, I know!!!! It just never happened before, even with my exs…. There were always fights or something stupid going on that didn’t make a kiss happen. SOOOOO hopefully this time around, it will happen!!!!
We spent the night together. We were like 2 nervous school kids in bed. We cuddled and played…. SIGH!!!!
Falling I am….
Last night I came to the conclusion that in a relationship, there needs to be 3 different connections before a full commitment and fulfillment can take place. A physical, mental and emotional connection needs to take place.
MG and I, from the start have had a mental connection. We began building a friendship. There were days in the early stages that I wanted to text him and tell him a funny story because I knew he would understand and laugh with me, without passing judgment. We always had a mental connection from the beginning.
We are now starting to explore the 2 other connections.
The physical connection is coming on very strong. It’s funny how the first few dates, we were not attracted to each other physically but as the dates went on, the physical attraction ignited and the sparks are bursting into a flame that hopefully will not burn out. It’s becoming harder not to touch and be around each other. The days we are not physically together, I have an ache inside that partially numbs me until I’m with him. It’s crazy! I miss him even though we’ve only been apart a few days…
We can definitely say now that we are very much physically attracted to each other…
The last connection, which is basically the hardest connection of all, emotional… It’s the hardest because it’s the one that leaves you the most vulnerable. It’s the walls that come down that you’ve built up around your heart to stop you from getting hurt. It’s the purest in form because it’s everything. It’s your sub conscious and conscious side believing in love and moving towards that happily ever after.
MG and I are treading lightly in this connection. Both our walls are up. They are slowly crumbling but you could say that insecurities and the past, are hurdles in allowing the walls to break completely. I didn’t open up to MG until around our 9th date and because it took me so long to open up, MG was guarded in his emotions to me. He did woo and court me but that’s because he truly is a sweetheart. He is genuinely a nice person and was enjoying our mental connection, thus his thoughtful, caring ways.
I’m still guarded because I’m afraid. I’m scared that it’s too good to be true, he’s too good. The saying goes, if it’s too good to be true, then it is! Which is a horrible saying because it stops you from letting yourself go and enjoying all that life has to offer, all that a guy can give you.
I’m afraid because all that I have ever wanted and hoped for in a man, is coming to me in the form of MG and I don’t know how to take it exactly. I don’t want to pinch myself because if this is all a dream, I don’t ever want to wake up! I don’t know why I’m holding back from being the hopeless romantic that I was with all those undeserving guys…
Is it because I’m afraid of getting my heart broken? But if I don’t be true to myself, if I don’t let MG in completely, fully and embrace the hopelessness, will I miss out and regret it later on down the road? They say the beginning stages of a relationship is always the most fun, the honeymoon stage, the best but it’s also filled with doubt and insecurities and worry…
But if I don’t let go, I’ll never know and that will make me regret.
MG is taking me mini golfing for our 11th date…
The last couple of days I have been trying to figure out how to transition from a single, dating, free agent to being in a (gulp) relationship with an amazing guy! I guess not really figure out but adjusting to a new way of life.
No longer is the going out to find a conquest the mission of the night… Now it’s relaxing in a bar, not caring which hottie is available…
It’s a strange feeling. I feel completely at ease and calm… Everyone says that I have a glow about me, that I seem really happy. I am happy. I don’t worry or feel anxious. And I don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything/anyone.
In the past, with guys that I thought, I might possibly want something with, even with flings, I always felt like I would be missing out if we actually did end up together. Like there was/is something better out there. That’s how I felt with DP. I knew deep down he wasn’t right for me and I felt that I couldn’t say good bye to my other guys.
However with MG, I have easily told my sexcapades that I no longer am in heat for them… It’s funny, I don’t feel sad to say good bye to them.
People said when the relationship is right, everything falls into place and it really seems like that is the case.
I chuckle to myself, at the people that sent me such ridiculously, opinionated hate mail in regards to how I have lived my life. How they thought I was such an awful person for sleeping with Tom, Dick and Harry, that I would never meet a guy because I was “whoring” myself out… But if I hadn’t slept with Tom, Dick and Harry, and been through all the adventures that I went on, I wouldn’t be where I am right now, with an incredibly, thoughtful, generous, kind, sweet man. I had to sleep with all those guys, I had to go through those dick heads to appreciate all that MG has to offer me… (And hello to those haters, I did find a man, who appreciates me and all that I am, regardless of my history/past. So you should really keep your judgmental thoughts to yourself because in the grand scheme of things, your righteous ways, were wrong in regards to my life… That’s right, MY LIFE!)
I know at first I was skeptical and didn’t think anything would happen but possibly a friendship. But I’m sooo glad that I stuck it out and let him court me because we are definitely on the road to an amazing romantic relationship.
I truly think that if I hadn’t slept around, played the field and went on my adventures, I’d feel as though I was missing out on something… I think that’s why so many people go through their mid-life crisis. They enter into things so early on without knowing who they really are, without truly experiencing life and they wake up one morning, regretting not having gone on adventures… (Unless they’ve met their soul mate, ie my wonderful Fines, they are a rare exception…)
So I’ve played… I’ve slept… I’ve thoroughly enjoyed my life as a single, awesome woman. Now it’s time to have an adventure being a significant other to an incredible man…
Let’s see where this Adventure leads us because I have always said from the beginning, I’m on an Adventure to fight villains, learn about life and fall head over heels in love! I’ve fought plenty villains, I’m still learning about life and I’m most definitely am falling head over heels in love….
Let these Adventures begin….
Happy Thanksgiving!!!! May you all get stuffed and pass out with a smile on your face…..